Ultimately, the first step in the process is to make the decision that you want to obtain a divorce. Getting a divorce can be one of the most difficult experiences in someone’s life, and as such the decision to obtain a divorce should not be taken lightly. Know that after obtaining a divorce, your life is likely to change significantly, from the amount of financial support you have received to the time that you spend with your children. When considering your options during this difficult decision, it may be useful for you to consult with a few trusted family members or friends along with the valuable knowledge of legal counsel.
If you are thinking about obtaining a divorce, but are not sure whether such a thing is the right decision for you and your family, click the button below to read our blog and learn about some of the important signs that may help you in making your decision. While this is not an exhaustive list, and there are many other reasons why a person may want to or should obtain a divorce, these are some helpful things to consider when determining what is best for you, your children, and your loved ones.
1. Your Needs Are Not Being Met:
We all have needs, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual. Both partners must do their part and fulfill the needs of the other. When one-half of this equation drops off, the marriage becomes one-sided. No one should be forced to give their all and receive nothing back in return. If you feel unfulfilled in every aspect of your relationship, then you owe it to yourself to find happiness elsewhere, once a divorce has been finalized.
2. Staying Together For The Kids:
The presence of children always hurts the divorce process, and in many cases, an abusive relationship will carry on for years because one or both parents do not wish to put their children through the stress. Often times, you’ll hear someone say, “we’re staying together until the kids are out of school,” and meanwhile they’re wasting away the best years of their lives.
Children are impressionable, and they see everything. Many of the values that a child carries into adulthood are learned from the examples set forth by their parents or guardians. Seeing an unhealthy relationship degenerate before their eyes will teach kids the wrong lessons about love. Seeing abuse on a daily basis normalizes that behavior, and they may adopt such a demeanor as they grow. Sometimes, it is healthier for children to experience the divorce process than it is to grow up in an unhappy home.
3. Trust is Gone:
Trust is the most important element of a relationship. If you cannot trust your spouse, then every element of your marriage will be tainted. No one likes to worry about who their husband or wife might be speaking with, who they’re seeing, and what they’re hiding. Having to snoop around your significant other’s phone, drawers, or social media profiles is not something anyone should ever have to do.
Many times, repentance is possible, and through time and effort, the bond of trust can be mended. But, if you have been burned multiple times, ask yourself if you can ever truly trust this person again. If the answer is no, then it’s time the begin thinking about moving on.
4. Abuse:
Abuse can come in many forms. Physical abuse is the most commonly known, but there are also mental, verbal, and emotional abuses, all of which are unacceptable in a relationship. By accepting abuse and continuing to give your spouse what they want, you are feeding into that behavior and reinforcing it. Abuse cannot be tolerated, and if you are being abused in any way, you owe it to yourself to get out of that relationship as fast as possible.
If you are a victim of physical abuse, consider calling the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.
5. Unfaithfulness:
Whether you’ve cheated or been cheated on, unfaithfulness is a huge sign that something in your relationship is broken. Many times, a partner can overlook unfaithfulness, but it often looms above the marriage like a dark cloud. If you are trying to forgive a cheating spouse, make sure that you have it in your heart to fully forgive them, or you will have a tainted relationship forever.
Also, if you are thinking about being unfaithful, that is another sign that something in the relationship is broken. Either attend counseling and try to cut off the issue before anything happens or consider filing for a divorce.
Divorce is not fun, but it can be manageable. The Orlando Law Group specializes in Family Law, and will stand beside you during this difficult time. But, before that’s possible, you must decide what’s best for you, and make this important decision. If any of these five examples of a broken relationship can be applied to yours, then it might be time to schedule a consultation.
Call 407.512.4394 to speak with an attorney today.
Last Updated on October 17, 2023 by The Orlando Law Group
